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The other day, my friend I were talking about how much we put ourselves over the internet through social media accounts. This conversation occurred after he asked me what my twitter account is. He said he wants to mention me on his tweet about something, and he couldn't find my twitter account. "That's because I didn't have until yesterday," I answered. He frowned in shock to find a cave person in this 20th century era. "You didn't have one until yesterday???? I didn't realise that. Well, at least you keep 20% of your life. That's good," he said again. 

20% ? I think I keep 90% of my life. Even in a blog platform that allows you to write long paragraphs, I still keep a lot parts of my life. When I read someone else's blog or social media account, I often feel like I really know the person who write the said blog or other account, even though I know it's just  snippets of their lives. A series of event that they choose to share. 

I think even though a lot of people are very open about their lives in social media, what we share is what we want to share and that's what influence people's opinion about us. It's true that I share pieces of who I am in what I write, but reading someone else's blog is like peeking into their lives.

p.s : I'm still amazed how most people just automatically assume that everyone has a twitter account.
p.p.s : I eventually made a twitter account for the project that I'm working on at the moment after a quite long debate with my self. I could never understand twitter.

28 comments:

  1. I think it's good you keep some of your life off-line. I think that's important for everyone, even though I do believe in honesty in blogging. I also think everyone should have at least one secret they keep only for themselves :)

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    1. i agree in honesty in blogging. i mean there's a difference between lying and keeping.

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  2. I can really relate to this post. Especially because I feel like I know YOU! ;) haha! I think social media in general is so fascinating because we only have to share a piece of ourselves. Some people share all the good and we envy them. Some people share all the bad and we judge them. It's very difficult to put the entire picture on the internet, even when we're as transparent as possible. For this reason I deleted my Facebook for Lent (and maybe longer). Maybe that's why I haven't been blogging on my personal blog for a long time, too. I'm glad you share these interesting insights with all of us! :)

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  3. I blog generally once a week and I hardly use the other social media exactly because of the reason you mention!since this is not my job I prefer to keep most of my spare personal time for the people I love!
    Nice post bythe way
    http://mygenerouslife.blogspot.it

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  4. it's interesting the different ways people use social media. as you said blogs are snippets of a persons life and you can get a sense of who they are but really... you don't know! but of all the social media platforms out there blogs are my favourite as they seem to be the most personal.

    Emmett - Hippie Lace

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  5. Hah, yes. I don't like Twitter. Always thought it was pretty stupid, except as a marketing tool. It's definitely important to choose what you share and never over-share. People complain about having no privacy over social media but the actual user is the one in control.

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  6. I actually think it's admirable when people don't have many online accounts! Sometimes its best to keep contact with others in person and spend time working on skills or being outside.

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  7. A lot of my friends don't have a twitter account. I understand that completely :) I have mine since 2009, but it's adifferent story :) Now twitter is about something else than few years ago :)

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  8. i love blogs and social media because although it's very much on the surface, i feel like i know someone or the veil of someone through their blog posts, their pinterest pins, or their tumblr posts and commentary. one of the reasons i got sucked into blogging was the amazing community of writers not afraid to write how they feel.

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  9. I love blogging and blogs yet somehow Facebook and Twitter aren't so great for me.

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  10. You're right that we all let people see just what we want them too. There's always parts of us that no one will ever see. Social media is weird like that.

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  11. i've had a twitter forever a few years and i still don't really use it. i think i am more personal, and just putting really short blips into social media makes me feel weird. i think that's why i like blogging, i can be personal, i can let people in, but of course i can withhold the parts i don't want public. for me it's the perfect balance. xo

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    1. I agree. that's why i love blog. it's a perfect balance for me too.

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  12. I am totally on your side. In fact, I feel today you are forced to go on Facebook & Twitter etc... If you want to ask a question to a company you can find their Facebook sooner than a telephone or email. I really don't like it.

    I only have blogspot, and that's fine.

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  13. You are very correct. People do reveal only what they want people to see on social media. That can be good and bad. I think our blogs are, in many ways, an extension of ourselves. Even if our blogs have nothing to do with our personal lives, they are a reflection of us in some way. Whenever you are writing something, those words are coming from the inside, whether it's barely under the surface or deep in the soul. They are a part of us.

    As far as Twitter and other forms of social media, I deleted my Facebook almost a month ago and it feels great! One of the best decisions I ever made in my life.

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  14. :) so true. sometimes i think i know someone from what i see on the blog but i know it's just a snippet of their life. i don't know what else is going on in their life and everyone has their own situations. my previous jobs was all about social media so i was on twitter and instagram from years ago and i'm totally fascinated by it. but still a lot of my life i do keep private :)

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  15. i couldn't agree more. i certainly don't think it's wise to share everything, you want to keep some stuff as the truth of life. curating a blog or any other social media account should be done with care. i love it when i see anything that manages to come from the heart. a lot of respect for those people!

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  16. I will never understand twitter either. haha. but you are right, we only share what we want to share and i think that is totally fine. i do feel like i know you even though i don't know everything about you. i don't need to know everything. i don't know if that makes sense. :)

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  17. ;^))
    i don't have a twitter account,or Facebook, pinterest, instagram
    only a blog, where i can show what i make and do
    my little life
    and even this blog takes more time than a sometimes want, ha!

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  18. it took me awhile to understand twitter haha! but anyways I think everyone filters what they share online, or at least I hope they do! No matter what you share, there are so many moments in life that are best private

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  19. I totally agree. Did you see lovetaza.com 's most recent post? Amazingly accurate account of this topic. I technically have a twitter account but I never use it. I should just get rid of it. It is funny though how much we truly think we 'know' a person just because they blog. xo

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  20. twittter is too much complicated for my 36 year old mind ahahah i have an account but don't use it in a long long time and i just made that account because it was the best away for me to connect withone of my friends who was living abroad...i think there is a lot of your life to keep and some of it to share.Nobody can make us over share or think that we are obliged to have an open live out there and it is a little offensive when others think that we 'ought to' have accounts here or there :/

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  21. soo true! i do think it's so nice to be able to share a bit of my life and heart with "strangers" and connect with people from all over the world. but it's so important to keep some part of life "off-line". it's nice to have moments and pictures and memories we just keep to ourselves... :) and i don't have a twitter...haha i just don't have too much patience for it. i had like two accounts before, but gave up on it...:P
    xoxo
    - Gabi
    gabisomewhere.blogspot.com

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  22. I think we share on social media what we want others to know about us. Not more but also not less.
    I recently deactivated my Facebook account and I haven't felt so free in a long time. It had made me feel bad over the past years and I'm so happy I finally stopped it. I do not plan on ever going back.
    Luckily I've never joined Twitter. But I do love blogging. I like to share my thoughts, my photography, bits about me and I love the support that develops with friendships in the blogging world from all over the planet :) I'm very lucky I found you here! I can't explain why but I don't feel like blogging is exactly the same as the rest of social media.

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  23. I have a Twitter account but have never used it! Not one single tweet. I do love blogging though. I must admit I like to keep my blog a happy space and I tend to only blog about happy things or only blog about the unhappy events AFTER they have passed. So I guess in that sense I'm not showing 100% of what I am

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  24. i have no twitter. no instagram.
    and i still have a conflicted mind about blogging, facebooking etc.
    but there are enough positive things with it i guess, so i keep doing it.
    however, i often think and wonder about it, and find it weird, these tendencies we have. and then i try to just close the computer and go outside, into real life... i guess it is all about balance?

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  25. Mehhhh not a twitter fan. I need to make one for my site but I'm procrastinating on it. Awesome shot!

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  26. I love how you think.
    My blog allows me to pour out my thoughts and share my adventures and love of wildlife and nature. I seldom lay it all out on the line. I think we all dig a little mystery. That's what is so beautiful about writing. A little here, a tidbit there. Wonder. And then you want more.
    For one day, yes one day, I opened up an Instagram account. Then realized, I don't want to spend THAT much time on social media. So, I cancelled it. I'd like my days to be spent freely, without always needing to take pictures and sharing them, you know?
    So nice to see you. ;)

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